Gentlemen

This topic i will review how our malaysian especially chinese's perception on GENTLEMEN.

Come guys, let's stand up and be a real gentlemen !

I guess all the guy who has girlfriend sure will thanks me after reading this. It inspires me to write this because i see among my friends who suffer it. Gentlement is a word = high price for guys. Why i say so ?

Ok, here the situation, Ah beng and Jennifer are University student. One day, Ah Beng's girlfriend birthday, (Jennifer) she decided to organize it in a restorant. She invites all her friends come along to celebrate.

Ok, the wrong signal of gentlemen come liao, be ready guys :

Jennifer frens : Hey, who organize this birthday party for you ? This place is good lar. (of coz good lar.. restaurant mar not MC D also )

Jennifer: My bf lor... ah beng. ( actually this girl already plan very long time ago ) He really loves me and He already paid for the whole party.

Jennifer frens : Wah, your bf so gentlemen lar ( in another word: generous ) and so love you.

Jennifer : Yalor yalor ( of course lar, my birthday wor, must celebrate for me.... seems like got face and standing at the top of Mountain Everest )

Ah Beng: As long as Jennifer happy lar... ( actually he is crying inside his heart ) Then everyone laugh.

My OX-ford dictionary : a man who is polite and well educated, who has excellent manners and always behave well.

Ok, usually this word utter from girl as compliment towards guys for being helpful. ( It needs two gender MALE + FEMALE to really happen this situation )

Or in the prom nite or function, usually when guy wearing nice, it looks gentlemen ! But the converstation above is all base on money... the evaluate the relationship.

Ok, let'see what is my definition of GENTLEMEN

In western country, gentlemen is being correctly use. when man walk down to stair, he saw a girl walking as well, He will walk infront of the girl at stair. When walk up the stair, girls will be at front of the guys, vice versa.

You know why ? this is to prevent girls from falling into front or behind, because there is still a guy to protect and hold you ! That's why male and female is differently body shape and strength. We guys with strenght can help what the girl who don't have. And certainly not evaluate with money !

And another case in Europe, Britain for example. Try to imagine that 1940 in London, there is a large formal party. So they will dance formally. Girls will certainly wear big big dress and guys will wear like a gentlemen.

Ok, when they stop dancing, a couple move to a table and sit. The guy will not sit first, he will stand beside the girl on her chair . The girl will stand up and put her both hands on the buttock to press down the dress... and the dress is long as well so it really needs both hands. The guy will push the chair until girl sit down. Then the guy only go back to his seat.

Isn't that romantic and nice compare to the ah beng's girlfriend birthday ?

In US, girls are not particularly like to being treat by guy, for example like meal. They feel they are still able to afford a meal, and why guys to pay for us ? They are more independent in term of thinking compare to Asian Woman. See, what is the difference ?

Let me get to the point, chinese society always claim gentlemen in more like generous people. But generous need money.

As a result, you will find out in our common chinese society : Rich People = Gentlemen , Poor People = Not Gentlemen

I am not rich , and i am not that poor. Then who am i ?

This perception is deadly wrong and only will lead us to Kiasu society which like the Perodua Kancil Ads.It is a good mirror to reflect ourselves actually which i don't why it get banned. And in Singapore, the money minded thinking is already deep into their society.

My JB frens warn me to not get a girlfriend from Singapore, or else i will in deep shit !

So girls out there, please don't torture your boyfriend, unless he is really rich ass lar... hahahahaha..

But we are all the same. We have the same pocket money from parents also. Guys do not get extra money to being gentlemen. If i tell my father this, i m sure he is going to whack me, or tell me to do gender- change operation to become female so i don't worry about money.

Sometimes money isn't the only way to judge how much he loves you. Notice what he did when you need help, he will give you a hand no matter how hard or far you are. Of course not to expect girl to utter the word : "Oh, you are so gentlemen" in every detail of our life. But at least, you know he cares about you. He loves you !

You Don't Blame The Grape Sour Because You Can't Eat It

Yesterday i just had chit chat with my friend. Then in the middle of the conversation, we touch about gym.Gym is a quite restrict topic for some people.

Some they never want to go gym, it need moneys. ( Nothing to say, you pay the money, you get the things you want )

Some they feel gym is only for big muscle guy and they will be like WWF Wrestle, ( Not everyone is going to train like Triple H or The Rock ), why don't you say Brad Pitt ?

I am not a boxer nor I a wrestler and I do not play rugby. I do not need to have those mass to pin my opponent down. So, I admire The Rock and Triple H, but I never want to have their type of bodies. ( They train so big because of profession need, you need not to respect but you don't despise people )

Oh , come on. What's wrong to be like me ?

Apart from that, correct me if I were wrong. Girls do not like guys with body builders' body. No girl will ever want her boyfriend's chest to be bigger than hers. Even if I were not a girl, I myself could not stand to see a man with C cup chest like the one in the below picture.

He should wear a bra. What do you think?

Let's go to another extreme case, how about Bruce Lee? Yeap, he has almost no body fat. Nope, I do not think I will look great with that body shape. Chow Sing Chi has a lean and fit body too in Kung Fu Hustle, but he is a bit too thin.

His kung fu is great but too thin

Brad Pitt's body is good, it is merely a dream for appeton boy like me to get the body like him.

Some will think the big muscle will become flabby when we become old. ( The breast also will become flabby, it just the old lady cover it well -* try not to imagine if can )

Ok i stop with dirty jokes here. Let me straight to my point.

The situation is : Why people would like to create excuse for themselves, and to hypnotize themself to being safe or right. It is no different as an ostrich trying to hide its head inside the hole. Ok, i make two examples.

Let's say a skinny guy saw a muscular V-shape guy train his body inside a gym. The skinny
guy will say: Aiks ! ( Train so big muscle, at the end also flabby lar... ) another quote from my friends ( Train so big, your dick will getting smaller and smaller because your body size is getting bigger and bigger ) -This is because of illusion thingy lar

I don't blame him to be so pesimistic. But if one day, you make your wish. You sleep and wake up realise that you got the shape of Brad Pitt. Do you worry of your muscle will flabby or your dick become smaller because of illusion thingy ?

I bet you want naked immediately and running the house for whole day. So what's the point you see ?

A poor working class driving 5 years second hand years old Nissan Sunny always look at the Rich People driving luxury car. One day he saw one Nissan car also...But Nissan Skyline lar. He will act the same as above, aiya your daddy rich ass mar...

Wow, Nissan Skyline wor... not Nissan Sunny or Nissan Sunline ler.

The point is you want something , you work out for it. You don't blame the grape sour because you can't eat it .

For Brad Pitt: I go to gym most 5 times a weeks. I specifically work out on my six packs for two hours. And my tripes and biseps for 3 hours. I deserved to be having a great body shape.

For the Nissan Skyline driver : This is my dream car, i have been saving money for 5 years. I work for day shift and part time job. Finally i able to buy it.

Why people would like to think negatively when they can't get the things ? To hypnotize that it is not a big deal to get that ? we don't give a shit to them ? So we despise them ?

Well,the things isn't that shallow as we see. Why don't people think of the real efforts behind ? They deserved to get it because of what they did. They pay a lot of thing from just the appearance you see. Yeah...you can say it is lucky, kena lottery. But it ain't going to buy u things forever ! Sometimes money can't buy all the things in our life.

You don't blame the grape sour because you can't eat it. Start to think from a good perspective and positive way in our life and towards people as well.

PS : The above is chinese idioms, however i find the same meaning in another version and those english ed you can get what i mean :

COGITO, ERGO SUM
DON'T BLAME OTHERS FOR BEING CLEVER, BUT BLAME YOURSELF FOR BEING IGNORANT.

Gym, the sports i can settle down finally

I used to work out at gym for 3 to 4 days a week sometimes even more.. maybe people are curious why i go gym for ? for the purpose of shape of body and i can be like Brad Pitt type of body ? or even to can show off sometimes ... Hehehe, it is fun to do that, however my initial reason is not all this.

When i ponder why would i go gym for all this time, i suddenly realise i was doing it all alone. Yes, ALONE.I used to sports with my frens in ping pong , tennis and jogging. It is fun and enjoy. And when the passion going on, i seem want it always.

Sports is about consistent and only you can see the improvement. But i guess i am the only one who think this way. Others would consider it as fun and for health purpose.

I realise people will not do the things they dislike in their free time. Same goes with me. No use to force people with that.And i can't always think from myself only, i must consider others as well.

And accidentally in the August of 2005, after finish my internship. I play ping pong for sometimes and i feel very fun indeed. The speed and tricks... However, it never last long.I used to play myself with strangers more than my frens. At the end, i find myself who are the only one who doing it only.

Then, I started to approach gym.

In the gym room,I picked up the weight, the lightest I could find in the gym. I put my feet on the treadmill, the easiet cardiovascular exercise in the gym and I started to run.

It is not a rocket science. It is not a black magic. It is all about discipline and commitment. I can work out myself and i feel happy with it. Gym isn't the place to build body only, it build my confidence and satisfaction.

Going to gym is a start. At the mean time, started to make sure that I have at least 8 hours of sleep.

One months, five months...

Today, 8 months later, I am glad with my decision. I never look back. Gym, it is the sports i can settle down finally...

Sorry, I am not gay

It is already quite some time i used to be single in my Uni life. Huh ^^ Nevertheless, single doesn't mean i lose interest to girls. I m just shy and low-profile sometimes. I don't dare to take action towards girl. This is also one of my regrets in my university life.

Actually there is a reason for this, when i was in primary and secondary school, my mom don't allow me to get into love at school. She said, study hard, after you earn a lot of money then only court girl. Of course, i am too small to understand all of this. Then it makes me imgaine of a rich tycoon and have a lot of concubines behind him as a future of me. Not bad, not bad...muahahahaa. But now i think back, i feel i am so "ham sap" and evil when i was small.

Then, come to my University friends who start calling me GayShyang recently...and title of a movie ' memoirs of GayShyang " somemore. Niaseng arr ! Actually it is kidding from my friends and begin when i have the close relationship with another friend, Sean last time in my third year. It is wrong also to being close with male friend ? I feel so weird. People seem get to speak out the word 'gay' too easily and sometimes abuse it. Well, lucky it is among my close friends... i know they like to take me to kidding, no offense, they just like to joke and same goes to me.

However, recently i went back, my mom start to worry about me ... Start to curious what am i doing during my university as i seldom go back. Well, my mum ask me whether i "gau gay" coz i still have no girlfriend and maybe i m quite leng cai also. WTF !!! And my jaw dropped to the floor immediately as i don't know to answer her. So innocent, i m being ask by my mom. Last time you told me dun pak tor first ,now u say me "gau gay". Oh my mother, god also you, ghost also you ! Well, sometimes i just lazy to explain to her. So lazy... I m so tired of this...

Well, certainly i am not gay.Yes, i am sentimental but i am not gay. Shyang is a normal guy,He likes only ladies and women. Yes, only minty holes, not spicy holes. Maybe it is time i should get a girlfriend ...

And for my mom, i should make a story to tell her if she ask me again. At least she likes to believe in fairy tales more than my real life.

PS : For all the girls out there, please don't give up on me, or else i really gotta go back to Brokeback Mountain and rear sheep...

The First Bloog

This is my first blog, due to the high demand from my friends. I must write my blog as well to let them read.Sounds like so prevert but in fact i really lazy to write blog instead of reading others. I feel blog is the extension of conventional diary, it just in digital format. However it is not meant to let people read public actually. Reading people diary or blog is pervert, however people like it. So i define blog is more of sharing than private diary.

Another reason of i writing blog is sometimes i need to express my feeling and emotion after an incident happen but there is no other pipeline to do it. Blog is a good way though, i can record the most beautiful moment when i accidentally saw a leng lui ....



or even accidentally step into big pole of COW POO. Life is so unpredictable, who knows ? I will write the thing exactly of what happening, writing the up and down of my life.